Our children are the most valuable component of our lives. Our interaction with them, however, sometimes seems to be more characterized by hurt feelings and misunderstandings than it does by happiness. Often as not that is because we have failed in doing what parents are supposed to do, establish clear expectations and enable our children to meet those expectations.
When you’re out an about, make sure you introduce your child to anyone you meet. This helps their self-esteem and gets them used to meeting new people. If you don’t introduce your child, you make them feel invisible and ignored. It’s important that your child feel loved and like they’re part of the family.
In order for your child to feel a sense of belonging in the household, it is important that they share tasks around the home so they feel they are contributing. Tasks assigned should be appropriate to the age of the child so they do not become overwhelmed and get discouraged.
If your child has a problem with wetting the bed, it is important that you get the problem addressed as soon as possible. You do not want your child to be a teenager and still wet the bed. There are medications available that help to stop a child from bed wetting.
Discipline is important when raising children, but punishment can ruin a child’s future. Making the distinction between loving correction and angry retribution is critical; a child must learn to trust you before they will truly change their behavior. To build love and trust between your children (while also correcting their wrong actions) repeat the fact that you love them, even in discipline. Also, wait until you are calm before delivering discipline; never act in fury.
If you have children in your home and you have a fireplace, make sure to get a fireplace or hearth gate. Thousands of children are injured each year from fireplace accidents. These injuries could have easily been prevented if the parent had taken safety precautions and gated off the fireplace.
Use your smart phone to soothe your baby with noise. You can download a white noise application and then place the phone near your child. This is particularly useful if you are going for a walk or if your child is riding in the car. You do not have to use white noise; there are a wide range of other calming sounds available.
If you have a baby that is not easily soothed, consider rubbing a bit of lavender essential oil on the back of your neck. The baby will smell this when you are rocking her and it will have quite the soothing effect on her. You may even want to put a couple drops of lavender baby lotion on your baby’s blanket.
The tips delineated above should prove indispensable in helping us teach our children just what it is that we expect and how they can go about achieving those expectations. That frees up our time, and theirs, for more positive one on one interaction with one another. What possibly could be a more important objective?